15 Common Thoughts That Mentally Strong People Learn to Avoid

15 Common Thoughts That Mentally Strong People Learn to Avoid Mental strength takes time to build, and becoming a mentally strong person doesnt just happen overnight. Encountering setbacks and still pushing through helps people increase their mental strength. parte of achieving success involves recognizing thought patterns that get you off course and derail the path to victory. Here are 15 thoughts that mentally strong people avoid1. If I ask for help, everyone will think Im weak.Mentally strong people know that people rarely accomplish everything alone. They ask for assistance when they need it to avoid getting too overwhelmed.2. Ill deal with that tomorrow.People often put things off because they dont want to have to confront unpleasant feelings that can be associated with completing certain tasks. Confronting these feelings and getting the job done is a sign of mental strength.3. Im not as good as ___.Comparing yourself to others can be toxic. Dwelling on your own perceived insuf ficiencies compared to others often does mora harm than good.4. Im just not good enough.Defeatist thinking patterns cause can lead to inaction. Part of being resilient means pushing through unpleasant outcomes and keep working toward your goals.5. If I fail at this, my life is over.A big part of being mentally strong is striving to keep things in perspective. Remember that one misstep doesnt mean everything is wrong.6. If its meant to happen, it will happen.If you sit back and wait for the things you want in life to appear out of nowhere, youre more likely than not to end up disappointed. Being proactive and working toward what you want is a must for the mentally though.7. Nothing good happens to me, so why even try?Dont let a few setbacks keep you from getting back up. When those with mental strength are knocked down, they shake it off and keep striving.8. Some people just have all the luck.Because part of mental strength involves practicing gratitude, those who possess it are happ y when those around them are successful. Being envious of others breeds negativity and uses up energy that could be used toward achieving goals of your own.9. If it hasnt happened yet, it probably never will.Reaching a goal often takes longer than expected. Instead of throwing in the towel when obstacles appear, the mentally strong keep faith in themselves and keep working hard.10. Since ___ rejected me, everyone else will.The mentally strong dont let one no squash their vision. Rejection is a part of life, and though facing it may sting, its important not to take it to heart.11. If it doesnt work out this time, I give up.Instead of experiencing failure as an end, mentally strong people experience it as an opportunity to grow. Giving someone else the power to take your dream from you is a sign of mental weakness.12. Once I get___, Ill finally be happy.Believing that reaching a certain milestone or attaining a certain material possession will lead to happiness is a recipe for constan t dissatisfaction.13. Its important that everyone likes me.Its trueyou cant please all of the people all of the time. Trying to make everyone like you is an energy drain, and the mentally strong understand this.14. They hurt me, so I hope someone hurts them.Wishing badeanstalt things onto others is a major waste of mental energy. The mentally strong accept and move on instead of letting negative people take up space in their minds.15. Its better to stay comfortable than take a risk and be let down.Because rejection and disappointment are painful experiences, settling for less than you want can be tempting, but the mentally strong know that amazing things live on the other side of that discomfort.--Kayla Heisler is an essayist and Pushcart Prize-nominated poet. She is an MFA candidate at Columbia University, and her work appears in New Yorks Best Emerging Poets 2017 anthology.